Which is better, to be needed or to be wanted? Here are some example scenarios to consider. PARENTING Consider the role of a parent. When your children are first born, they definitely need you. They depend on you for safety, food, shelter, clean diapers and clothes, not to mention emotional support, life lessons, and so on. Even when they are older, they might still need you for college tuition or help with food and shelter. As parents, the greatest feeling in the world, however, is not to be needed, but to be wanted. Andy Stanley, Pastor of North Point..